Emotion or Thought/
Opinion
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Emotion or Thought/ |
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Select whether you think the statement at the top of each box is a clearly expressed emotion or a thought/opinion. When you click on your choice my response will be shown. Before trying this challenge I recommend reading about feelings.
I told you to keep the cat off the couch, I feel ignored.
We are not in agreement. Ignored is a guess of what the other is intending and not an emotion.
We are in agreement as the speaker is not following "feel" with an emotional word. Ignored is a guess of the other's state of mind.
I feel drivers shouldn't be talking on their cell phones, I value safety.
We are not in agreement as the speakers is not expressing an emotion after feel. Driver is a noun. However the speaker is expressing a need clearly. (safety)
If you chose this we are in agreement. The speaker is not expressing an emotion.
I'm frustrated that you didn't ask me before ordering lunch.
We are in agreement. This is an emotion followed by an observation. Observation could be better stated by saying, I don't remember you asking me before ordering.
We are not in agreement. This is an emotion followed by an observation. Observation could be better stated by saying, I don't remember you asking me before ordering.
I feel aggravated when I think I am being manipulated.
We are in agreement. Aggravated is an emotion and the speaker is also expressing her thoughts. However, when we follow an emotion with our thoughts it is not likely to lead to connection even though we are taking responsibility for our thoughts. Most people have a hard time leaving their thoughts out of expressing honestly.
We are in agreement if you chose this because it might not lead to connection. This is an emotion (aggravated) followed by thought. When we tell people what we think of them it frequently leads to defensiveness.
I feel like Stella needs a vacation.
We are not in agreement. Feel followed by like means it is a comparison and not an expression of an emotion. There is an emotion behind the words but not clearly expressed.
We are in agreement. Feel followed by like means it is a comparison and not an expression of an emotion. There is an emotion behind the words but not clearly expressed.
I feel annoyed because you are so rude.
We are in agreement that an emotion is expressed. However adding your thoughts is not likely to lead to connection.
I feel annoyed because I would like some respect
would be a more clear way to say it.
We are in agreement. This is an emotion followed by an evaluation of other's intention. I feel annoyed because I would like some respect would be a more clear way to say it.
Martha was here before class started the last 3 weeks. I feel appreciation and my need for consideration has been met.
We are in agreement, because the speaker is expressing an observation, feeling and need. This is expressing a met need.
We are not in agreement because the speaker is expressing an observation, feeling and need. This is expressing a met need.
I'm worried students won't respect you if your hair is messy.
We are in agreement. We do have an emotion expressed however it is followed by a prediction. Not likely to create connection.
We are in agreement. We do have an emotion followed by a word (respect) from the need list. However, it is not likely to lead to connection.
When you give me that look, I feel like I haven't been understood.
We are not in agreement. Observation followed by using feel
to express a thought. To be understood is a need but the way it is used here
is to make an evaluation of what is going on for the listener. Could be, When you give me that look, I feel exasperated and I am wanting to be understood.
We are in agreement. Observation followed by using feel
to express a thought. To be understood is a need but the way it is used here
is to make an evaluation of what is going on for the listener. Could be, When you give me that look, I feel exasperated and I am wanting to be understood.
When you yell, I am scared. I need you to show respect.
We are in agreement. An observation is followed by an emotion. However, I need you
is referring to a specific person and not a universal need. Could have been said,
I would like some respect.
We are in agreement. This is not the NVC model. Observation and feeling expressed well, need not expressed well. I need you is referring to a
specific person and not a universal need. Could have been said,
I would like some respect.