Background Story:
Someone close to you who is near the end of their life and you are guessing they will leave you a life changing amount of money.

I don't want to talk about where my money is going in my will. jackal puppet

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Emotional Scale Quick Reference
Positive 1. Joy 2. Passion 3. Enthusiasm
4. Belief 5. Optimism 6. Hopefulness 7. Contentment
8. Boredom 9. Pessimism 10. Frustration 11. Overwhelment
12. Disappointment 13. Doubt 14. Worry 15. Blame
16. Discouragement 17. Anger 18. Revenge 19. Hatred
20. Jealousy 21. Guilt 22. Depression Negative

Before After Statement Explanation
14 17 I can't believe you would cut me out of your will! Expressing your thoughts in a judgmental way will most likely not create connection.
14 6 Is it important to you to make your decisions based on your own values? This is indirectly acknowledging freedom and integrity. Will most likely be very well received.
14 16 I'm disappointed. Expressing an emotion without needs and a request usually stirs up anxiety in the other person.
14 12 Are you worried and wanting acceptance? This is an excellent empathy guess, it may be too big a jump for the other person to take and if you continue the empathy he or she might acknowledge it a little later when the need for trust has been met.
14 17 I guess I'll just have to struggle the rest of my life. This attempt at pity will probably stir up more anger than sympathy.
14 18 You're the one who has to deal with your karma. Hinting that someone will be judged for their behavior is usually not connecting.

Additional comments:
For most people this is a very emotionally charged topic and requires lots practice to deal with in an empathic manner.

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