Background Story:
Playing catch, throws over head.
Why did you throw it over my head.
Emotional Scale Quick Reference | |||
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Positive | 1. Joy | 2. Passion | 3. Enthusiasm |
4. Belief | 5. Optimism | 6. Hopefulness | 7. Contentment |
8. Boredom | 9. Pessimism | 10. Frustration | 11. Overwhelment |
12. Disappointment | 13. Doubt | 14. Worry | 15. Blame |
16. Discouragement | 17. Anger | 18. Revenge | 19. Hatred |
20. Jealousy | 21. Guilt | 22. Depression | Negative |
Before | After | Statement | Explanation |
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10 | 12 | I did it accidentally | Making excuses usually does not lead to connection. People make excuses when they hear judgments. |
10 | 17 | If you were any good you could have caught it | Insulting someone usually escalates a conflict. Blaming the other may be our response to hearing criticism. |
10 | 9 | Do you want me to be more accurate? | This is a start to identifying the need. Demonstrates a willingness to understand the other. |
10 | 6 | Are you annoyed when you chase the ball? | Demonstrates a willingness to acknowledge the emotional reaction to your behavior. |
10 | 18 | You should work on your vertical leap. | Blame and advice combined, be ready to run. |
10 | 18 | My grandmother could have caught it. | Comparisons, especially with an insulting tone rarely create connection. |
Additional comments:
Although this may seem like a minor thing, if we can practice compassion on the small things compassion will be easier on the big things.
Author | Emotion | Relationship | Topic |
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Jeff | Guilt | Friends | Death of pet |
Vincent | Blame | Friends teen boys | Video Game |
Jeff | Anger | Co-worker friend | Work Conflict |
Jeff | Blame | Spouse/Roommate | Dirty Dishes |
Vincent/Jeff | Frustration | Friends | Bad Throw |
Vincent | Blame | Friends | Merry Go Round |
Jeff Tretsven | Contentment | Empathy Buddies | Empathy Pause |
Jeff Tretsven | Blame | Coworkers | Heated Meeting |
Jeff Tretsven | Discouraged | Friend/Family | Self Criticism |
Jeff Tretsven | Worry | Heir Apparent? | Inheritance |
Jeff Tretsven | Discouraged | NVC Peer | Hearing No! |
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