Background Story:
playground, friend fell off merry go round and thought you caused it

Why did you push me off? jackal puppet

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Emotional Scale Quick Reference
Positive 1. Joy 2. Passion 3. Enthusiasm
4. Belief 5. Optimism 6. Hopefulness 7. Contentment
8. Boredom 9. Pessimism 10. Frustration 11. Overwhelment
12. Disappointment 13. Doubt 14. Worry 15. Blame
16. Discouragement 17. Anger 18. Revenge 19. Hatred
20. Jealousy 21. Guilt 22. Depression Negative

Before After Statement Explanation
15 17 It wasn't my fault. I didn't do it. Denial even if true is not connecting, try empathy first.
15 13 Do you think I pushed you off? Getting intellectual understanding is helpful but not the most effective.
15 9 Are you upset and want trust? Guessing the emotion and need will be the most soothing.
15 18 I didn't, you're the idiot that fell off. Arguing and insulting, better get ready to run.
15 13 Are you frustrated? Guessing someone's emotion usually will move them up the emotional scale.
15 19 Just ask Fred, I didn't push you off. Showing Someone you intend to argue with them usually escalates a situation.

Additional comments:
Although this is not a serious issue it still gives you the idea of how empathy works.

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