Background Story:
playground, friend fell off merry go round and thought you caused it
Why did you push me off?
| Emotional Scale Quick Reference | |||
|---|---|---|---|
| Positive | 1. Joy | 2. Passion | 3. Enthusiasm |
| 4. Belief | 5. Optimism | 6. Hopefulness | 7. Contentment |
| 8. Boredom | 9. Pessimism | 10. Frustration | 11. Overwhelment |
| 12. Disappointment | 13. Doubt | 14. Worry | 15. Blame |
| 16. Discouragement | 17. Anger | 18. Revenge | 19. Hatred |
| 20. Jealousy | 21. Guilt | 22. Depression | Negative |
| Before | After | Statement | Explanation |
|---|---|---|---|
| 15 | 17 | It wasn't my fault. I didn't do it. | Denial even if true is not connecting, try empathy first. |
| 15 | 13 | Do you think I pushed you off? | Getting intellectual understanding is helpful but not the most effective. |
| 15 | 9 | Are you upset and want trust? | Guessing the emotion and need will be the most soothing. |
| 15 | 18 | I didn't, you're the idiot that fell off. | Arguing and insulting, better get ready to run. |
| 15 | 13 | Are you frustrated? | Guessing someone's emotion usually will move them up the emotional scale. |
| 15 | 19 | Just ask Fred, I didn't push you off. | Showing Someone you intend to argue with them usually escalates a situation. |
Additional comments:
Although this is not a serious issue it still gives you the idea of how empathy works.
| Author | Emotion | Relationship | Topic |
|---|---|---|---|
| Jeff | Guilt | Friends | Death of pet |
| Vincent | Blame | Friends teen boys | Video Game |
| Jeff | Anger | Co-worker friend | Work Conflict |
| Jeff | Blame | Spouse/Roommate | Dirty Dishes |
| Vincent/Jeff | Frustration | Friends | Bad Throw |
| Vincent | Blame | Friends | Merry Go Round |
| Jeff Tretsven | Contentment | Empathy Buddies | Empathy Pause |
| Jeff Tretsven | Blame | Coworkers | Heated Meeting |
| Jeff Tretsven | Discouraged | Friend/Family | Self Criticism |
| Jeff Tretsven | Worry | Heir Apparent? | Inheritance |
| Jeff Tretsven | Discouraged | NVC Peer | Hearing No! |
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