FEELINGS TO NEEDS SUGGESTIONS

This content developed by Jeff Tretsven and is not part of John and Ike's curriculum.

 

ANNOYED, aggravated, dismayed, disgruntled, displeased, exasperated, frustrated, impatient, irritated, irked, ANGRY, enraged, furious, incensed, indignant, irate, livid, outraged, resentful

Wanting: respect, consideration, freedom, choice, independence, space, cooperation

 

AFRAID, apprehensive, dread, foreboding, frightened, mistrustful, panicked, petrified, scared, suspicious, terrified, wary, worried

Wanting: safety, security, stability, acceptance, order

 

AVERSION, animosity, appalled, contempt, disgusted, dislike, hate, horrified, hostile, repulsed

Wanting: space, beauty, integrity, ease, presence, acceptance, order

 

CONFUSED, ambivalent, baffled, bewildered, dazed, hesitant, lost, mystified, perplexed, puzzled, torn

Wanting: clarity, understanding, communication, to be understood, purpose, order, learning

 

DISCONNECTED, alienated, aloof, apathetic, bored, cold, detached, distant, distracted, indifferent, numb, removed, uninterested, withdrawn

Wanting: connection, community, companionship, belonging, empathy, understanding, participation, appreciation, stimulation, touch, closeness, trust, exercise

 

DISQUIET, agitated, alarmed, discombobulated, disconcerted, disturbed, perturbed, rattled, restless, shocked, startled, surprised, troubled, turbulent, turmoil, uncomfortable, uneasy, unnerved, unsettled, upset

Wanting: peace, ease, stability, comfort, harmony, clarity, understanding

 

EMBARRASSED, ashamed, chagrined, flustered, guilty, mortified, self-conscious

Wanting: acceptance, respect, appreciation, compassion, empathy, safety, support, trust

 

FATIGUE, beat, burnt out, depleted, exhausted, lethargic, listless, sleepy, tired, weary, worn out

Wanting: rest, space, ease, support, nurturing, independence, exercise

 

PAIN, agony, anguished, bereaved, devastated, grief, heartbroken, hurt, lonely, miserable, regretful, remorseful

Wanting: comfort, ease, companionship, connection, space, mourning, joy, warmth

 

SAD, depressed, dejected, despair, despondent, disappointed, discouraged, disheartened, forlorn, gloomy, heavy hearted, hopeless, melancholy, unhappy, wretched

Wanting: joy, play, connection, empathy, hope, inspiration, celebration of life, purpose, to matter, participation, contribution, warmth, love, intimacy

 

Special note: Sadness can be an indicator of when a person has reached awareness of a core need. The need that is expressed from sadness is often a very important (may be the core issue) need. When doing self empathy exercises, pay attention to sadness and watch what comes next.

 

TENSE, anxious, cranky, distressed, distraught, edgy, fidgety, frazzled, irritable, jittery, nervous, overwhelmed, restless, stressed out

Wanting: rest, ease, safety, stability, trust

 

VULNERABLE, fragile, guarded, helpless, insecure, leery, reserved, sensitive, shaky

Wanting: safety, trust, support, empathy, acceptance, mutuality, nurturing, love, honesty, presence, appreciation, compassion

 

YEARNING, envious, jealous, longing, nostalgic, pining, wistful

Wanting: equality, hope, inclusion, joy, trust, appreciation